One of the most powerful listening tools that I know of, this skill set will transform your relationships.

Questions for deeper interaction:

1. In order to be truly good at this skill, you will need to commit to hearing the other person as though you were their attorney and you were going to argue their case in court. How do you think you will do at listening to that level before speaking?
2. What do you think will be your hardest challenge to this skill?
3. Take some time to create strategies on how you will overcome those strategies. For instance, if you are afraid that you’ll forget what you wanted to say, you might consider stashing notebooks around your house so that you could write down your thoughts in short notes while your spouse is talking.
4. To really get good at this, pick one day where you attempt it all day long every week. Practice with people at work. You’ll know you’re getting good at it when no one notices what you are doing.