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Chapter 15. Utilizing the ABCs of Good Communication

This chapter begins the skills set of good communication. I'm so excited for people to learn these skills.

Questions for deeper interaction:

  1. One of the most commonly used destructive phrases is, “you make me,” or, “you made me,” etc. In order to be good at this method of communication, you need to commit to not use that phrase, do you think that will be hard or easy for you and your partner?
  2. To really get good at this, pick one day where you attempt it all day long every week. Practice with people at work. You’ll know you’re getting good at it when no one notices what you are doing.
  3. You can also practice this as a date night. Pick a movie or show from your favorite streaming service. Take turns pausing the show and stating what you think happened and how the character felt. For instance, if the show is about a couple dating and the man cheats on the woman believing it was Ok because they were on a break you might state that “when he cheated on her, she felt deep pain.”

 

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Chapter Guides

  • 01. What If
  • 02. Emotional Security is the Key
  • 03. The Power of Relational Equity
  • 04. The Key to Everything You Want in a Healthy Relationship.
  • 05: Expectations, Values, and Priorities
  • 06: Actions and Consequences
  • 07: How Do We Form Our Belief System?
  • 08: Conflict Is Your Best Friend - Emotionally Secure Couple
  • 09: Who or What Is Driving Your Bus?
  • 10: It's the Story We Are Telling
  • 11: The Three Core Questions
  • 12: Four Emotional Hazards
  • 13. How Do We Fix It?
  • 14. What Is Communication?
  • 15. Utilizing the ABCs of Good Communication
  • 16. The Mirror Method
  • 17. The Six Rules of Good Communication (#1-3 of BADFIT)
  • 18. The Six Rules (#4-6 of BADFIT)
  • 19. Building Emotional Security beyond Words

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